Plan Simple with Mia Moran
Being and Becoming with Michele Julian

Being and Becoming with Michele Julian

October 26, 2021

You actually have to slow down and figure out who you want to be. 
–Michele Julian

On this episode of the PlanSimple Podcast, I’m really excited to talk with Michele Julian, a healing life coach and meditation teacher about tools for this time we are in now. It’s a really important time to pause and really listen to ourselves. 

If you’re feeling like life has been on pause and you’re ready to resume, you could think about it as a time to process what’s happened. You could use it as a time to ask: Why do I want to be doing this particular thing that I'm doing today? Is it something that's really helpful for me and my family? Or is this something I've just been programmed to do to think that I am supposed to be doing this? 

But beyond that, how do you process this experience and take care of yourself? One of the shifts is how you think about self-care. What happens when we make self-care non-negotiable? What happens when we turn to coaches and counselors to support us out of overwhelm and through grief and trauma?

We talk about: 

  • Figuring out what your real, basic self-care is
  • Using a variety of tools—oracle decks, Journey dance, and more—to support yourself
  • A map to create more understanding in our physical, mental, and spiritual body
  • Journaling through the moon cycle
  • The importance of really slowing down and being
  • Getting out of your monkey mind

BIO

Michele Julian is a healing life coach and meditation teacher. She works with clients to heal their body and soul from the inside out so they can live a life of power, presence, and purpose. She runs the Rise of the Goddess podcast and is the creator of the Julian Method. She helps clients find, nurture, honor, and embody the goddess they are, through One-on-One Coaching and group programs. 

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Doable Changes from this episode:

  • ASK QUESTIONS. There is no “normal” to go back to, so we need to look at what we are resuming, letting back in, or continuing to do. Try asking these questions for a week and see what you find out: Why do I want to be doing this particular thing that I'm doing today? Is it something that's really helpful for me and my family? Or is this something I've just been programmed to do to think that I am supposed to be doing this?

  • BACK TO BASICS SELF-CARE. Forget getting nails done, massage, meditation. What are the real basic self-care actions you need? It could be as simple as taking a shower or eating a nourishing meal or getting outside. Pick something. Make it non-negotiable. Do it, and notice how it makes you feel.

  • PAUSE. If everything is moving too fast, pause. Take a weekend, a day, an hour out of your schedule. Slow down. Get still. Let yourself feel what the last 18 months has been like for you. Notice how you feel and what you need right now. Notice what feels hard, what needs to change. Don’t worry about changing, just start by noticing.
Maneuvering Menopause with Shelly Burns

Maneuvering Menopause with Shelly Burns

October 20, 2021

You can control a lot of symptoms with fitness, nutrition, mindset, and self care. Are you going to cure menopause? No, we're all going to go through it, but you can feel better while going through menopause. 
–Shelly Burns

On this episode of the PlanSimple Podcast, I’m so excited to talk with Shelly Burns, a chiropractor and 20-year veteran of the fitness and health industry, about something we don’t talk about enough—menopause and perimenopause. It’s really important for us to understand what’s going on with our bodies and to learn how to navigate this time in our lives. 

Shelly shares her own story of gaining weight, having increased anxiety, and having a doctor who didn’t help her. She found a new doctor and did some bloodwork and learned that her hormone levels were super low. Her doctor recommended a low dose of HRT, which made a huge difference in her daily life, from her relationship to her work and even not feeling like she was having a nervous breakdown. She had no idea what she was going through was perimenopause.

Once she knew, she made changes to her workout and nutrition. She adjusted her mindset and worked on self-care. Twelve weeks later, she had lost the weight she gained and people noticed not just that but how she was showing up. They wanted what she had, so she created a blueprint to help people change. Because the first step is knowing what you are going through, and the second is accepting that you have to change your approach to your body. 

We talk about: 

  • Working with people (doctors, trainers, other wellness providers) who understand perimenopause
  • Shifting workout focus to mobility and weights and ow weight gain in menopause can cause a spiral of other problems
  • Changing how you eat (different thing work for different people, but it’s probably different from what you’ve done) 
  • Working on mindset and not giving up
  • Acupuncture and massage as tools to support you through menopause
  • What we don’t know and how important it is to talk about and have a community of women during this transition

BIO

Shelly Burns is a 20-year veteran in the Health and Fitness industry. She wants to help empower women with her experience, personal coaching, training style,and advice on how to maneuver perimenopause and menopause. Her stories and struggle during this difficult time has led to the creation of The FIT Menopause Blueprint™. 

Over the past few years, Shelly has helped 100's of women get their desired results in weight loss, energy level improvement, hormone balancing & sleep quality improvement with her online program.

She is very passionate about helping women with their journey physically, mentally and emotionally.

 

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Doable Changes from this episode:

  • NOTICE WHAT’S HAPPENING. It’s easy to brush off symptoms of menopause on COVID or stress or life being too busy. It doesn’t help that we may have healthcare providers who dismiss what we are going through. Start by getting really clear on what you notice in your body. Pay attention to things like weight, energy levels, hot flashes, night sweats, anxiety, discomfort, changes in your cycle. It can be hard to remember accurately, so try tracking for a month (or more).

  • TRY ACUPUNCTURE. We talked about acupuncture as one specific tool to help alleviate symptoms and help you feel better. If you have never tried it, give it a try. Shelly and I both find it makes a world of difference. Like acupuncture, massage can be supportive in this transition. Or simply give yourself more self-care. If you’re currently not including self-care in your days, start with 20 minutes. It can make a world of difference.
  • CHANGE YOUR MOVEMENT. More or harder isn’t necessarily the answer when it comes to movement or working out. Shelly has most perimenopausal clients work on mobility and weights. Working with a trainer who is experienced with perimenopause and menopause can help you make changes that reflect what your body needs in this time in your life.
10 Ideas That Have Transformed How I Mother with Mia Moran

10 Ideas That Have Transformed How I Mother with Mia Moran

September 13, 2021

Anything that we do as parents is really fine, as long as we're being kind and loving. 
–Mia Moran

On this episode of the PlanSimple Podcast, I’m sharing 10 of the most important parenting concepts I’ve learned and implemented over the past 18 years. I’ve picked these up from different places — which I credit as I go. Some came easily and some took a while to figure out and untangle, but all of them have made a difference to me as a mother and to my family.

  • Family dinner is non-negotiable.

I got this one from my mom and dad. And while I focus a lot on food here, the concept of family dinner is not about food, but about the company and the connection it brings. Family dinner provides a connecting point at the end of the day and a landing pad for love. When you make family dinner a regular thing, it provides consistency when life may otherwise feel chaotic. It becomes part of the rhythm of your days.

  • We don't have to "fix.”

This concept started with my own  intuition and got refined and solidified by my work with Kim John Payne. More recently this idea was backed by my conversation with Trace Bell. Often when we are trying to fix something, we are trying to fix something in our own past, and also trying to fix takes us away from really listening. Often what kids need is not for us to solve a problem or make something better, but to witness their experience. That can be done with listening eyes or questions. One tool that we use, usually at family dinner, is roses and thorns. Each person shares something good from their day, something hard from the day or something they are worried about tomorrow, and something they are looking forward to.

  • You don’t have to go to every game.

Right now after 18 months of missing things—games and performances and school events—we may feel like we should go to everything. It is great to go to a game or other event and be fully present, but it’s not always easy. Michael Thompson taught me that there is value in having a kid tell you about their experience, because you are present in a different way. I started going when I could really be present and listening to the amazing stories the rest of the time, full present at the dinner table. (Notice how the dinner table keeps popping up?)

  • Talk about sex openly and early. 

Does talking about sex feel uncomfortable? Does it feel too early? You want to be the one your kids talk to about sex (and any of the hard things to talk about sex, our bodies, money, drugs, alcohol ... ). Dr. Sharon Maxwell said that if you haven’t told your kid about sex in second grade, you are too late. If you’re too late, don’t worry, I was too, but make a plan to talk and set yourself up as the established and trusted source.

  1. Hugs have power.

A small but meaningful addition to my parenting tool box was delivered in a story by Danielle Laporte. I knew that hugs were important, but she talked about hugging her tween son for at least 20 seconds, and I thought that sounded like a looong hug. So I started counting and realized how much I was rushing hugs. A 20-second hug is one you can land in, unrushed, and be present.

  • Self-care and adult time are essential. 

I grew up in the South in New Orleans where self-care was modeled in manicures, pedicures, getting hair done. My parents modeled the self-care of adult time. They’d take trips without us, go on dates, go to gatherings without kids. Later I learned what self-care really means. It can be cheaper and simpler than what I grew up with. It can be peeing instead of holding it in, working so cashflow isn’t a problem, standing up and taking a deep breath after slouching in front of a computer, going to bed instead of watching a movie (or sometimes snuggling and connecting while watching the movie). Self-care is responding to what you need in the now. One resource I love for self-care is The Art of Self Nurturing by my friend Kelley Grimes.

  • Good stories are powerful. 

Stories are powerful, and I have used different kinds of stories in different ways throughout my parenting journey. Whatever age your kids are, you can turn to stories. I grew up with stories—being read to, asking my grandmothers about their past. And then I encountered Nancy Mellon and her ways of bringing stories everywhere (including, you guessed it, the dinner table). Stories entertain, inform, build connection. And if you’re trying not to “fix,” stories can help share experiences without fixing.

  • Define quality kid time.

Let’s start with this quote from Kim John Payne: In the tapestry of childhood, what stands out is not the splashy blowout trips to Disneyland, but the common threads that run throughout and repeat the family dinners, nature walks, reading together at bedtime, Saturday morning pancakes.”  Sometimes we make things harder than they need to be. If we’ve been busy or away or a kid has had a hard time, we feel like we need a big adventure or something “special.” But what really matters is connecting. And that could look like a car ride alone to talk (or not), or snuggles and a backrub at bedtime or working in the same space together, or 30 seconds of attention before dinner. Notice that some of the other concepts I’ve shared fit into this one.

  • Less can most definitely be more.

I talk to a lot of people about being overwhelmed with “stuff.” Fewer clothes, fewer toys, fewer gadgets … Less stuff actually makes life easier. You spend less time decluttering, putting away, and cleaning. But less also applies to our calendar or schedule. Your kids don’t have to do everything. You can decide you don’t want any activities on Saturdays or Sundays. You can limit how many activities each kid does. And at some points, it may just add up, so how can you make it easier? Maybe it’s carpooling or kids riding a bike to practice. Maybe it’s finding a team that’s closer to home or with a less intense schedule. Maybe it’s not going to every game. Maybe it’s making dinner easier so that you can still enjoy family dinner even with busy schedules.

  • The main thing is for kids to become themselves. 

Society will tell your kids what to be. Their friends might, and even you might. I know I have had visions of what my kids might be. It shows up in what I want them to wear or do or how I want them to behave. Have you ever said, “Don’t cry. You’re okay,” when you child isn’t feeling OK? Do say, “Just wear this to the wedding” or “Are you wearing that to school?” It’s not easy to let your kids become themselves, but raising kids who can genuinely be themselves is what fuels my motherhood. It played into my decision on where my kids went to school. I’ve had to deal with my own conditioning and upbringing and limiting beliefs. But I keep coming back to something Sil Reynolds says: True dependence leads to true independence. I continue to be guided by this. 

If you want your kids to become themselves, if you want more ease in mothering, join us for Easeful Mothering. This year, I found a way to show up for even the hardest moments with ease, and I want this for every mother. It doesn’t have to be a juggling act. 

Easeful Motherhood is a practice of providing  peace, so that our “children can become themselves.” https://plansimple.com/easeful-motherhood

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Doable Changes from this episode:

  • 20 SECOND HUGS. Even if you feel like you don’t have time to connect, you can try 20-second hugs. It literally takes 20 seconds at a time. Build them in throughout the day. Check in with kids about being hugged, but be fully present and notice what 20 seconds can do.

  • DEFINE QUALITY TIME. Read #8 about quality time. Where are you making quality bigger or more complex than it needs to be? Make a list of 10 simple, quick ways to engage in quality time. Ask your kid for ideas too. (Remember different kids might have different ways or times they like to connect.) Work in that connection each day.

  • PRACTICE NOT FIXING. We want to fix things for our kids. Start by noticing and getting curious about your response when your kid tells you about a problem, hurt, or something else you want to “fix.” Let them feel it. Let them reflect their experience to you. Sit through your feeling of wanting to fix. Really listen to your kid with listening eyes or ask a question.
Kids and Spirituality with Trace Bell

Kids and Spirituality with Trace Bell

September 3, 2021

“Every spiritual journey is totally unique….Parents need to be comfortable with the fact that their kid's spirituality might look different from theirs.”
–Trace Bell

On this episode of the PlanSimple Podcast, I’m really excited to talk with Trace Bell about parenting and your kids’ spirituality. Trace is the son of renowned spiritual teacher and speaker, Rob Bell, who wrote Love Wins. Trace talks about the freedom he had to explore his own spirituality even when his father was a pastor and founder of a megachurch. 

Trace was never interested in organized religion, and never considered himself a Christian. His parents let him explore his own path and his own doorways into spirituality. He asked a lot of questions about infinity and his consciousness, and his parents encouraged his curiosity. 

He finds that a lot of parents are in a hard place: they don’t want to hand down the religion and religious structure they were given, but they do want to instill a deeper sense of spirituality in their kids. Some worry that if they don’t give kids the framework that their kids will go astray. His work helps parents figure it out. 

We talk about: 

  • Teaching kids spirituality through your own way of being and letting kids find their own doorways (even if that’s scary to you)
  • Asking questions about your kids questions
  • Ways to explore this process if you are part of a church or organized religion yourself
  • How pushing spirituality on kids out of obligation or something inauthentic can turn kids off
  • Rituals, meditation, and creating body-spirit connection
  • Taking a new look at time

BIO

Trace Bell is a spiritual teacher and consciousness guide. He is the son of author and teacher Rob Bell. Trace graduated from UCLA a year ago with a degree in political science and has spent the last year teaching with his father and working with people on their own spiritual journeys and personal evolution. On the Robcast Trace has talked about time, awareness, spiral dynamics and much more. Trace works with parents on how they can talk to their kids about spirituality in new ways and how they can parent from a spiritual perspective. Trace uses the psychological development model spiral dynamics to help people live a more whole, integrated and aligned life. It's been an incredible first year out of college for him and he is having so much fun getting to work with incredible people on their spirituality and development.

LINKS

  • https://www.tracebelll.com/
  • https://robbell.com/podcast/

Doable Changes from this episode:

  • KNOW YOUR OWN SPIRITUALITY. To teach your kids spirituality, start with what works for you. Where do you find your spirituality most open to you? Is it in a church or synagogue? Is it outside in nature? In a place where you are helping people? Show your kids what fills you with wonder or curiosity. Be open about where you are uncertain or struggle or have questions. Maybe journal on your concerns. What are you really worried about if you don’t pass on a framework that doesn’t feel authentic to you?

  • ANSWER QUESTIONS WITH QUESTIONS. Instead of trying to have all the answers, try answering questions with questions. Acknowledge that a lot of the things kids may be curious about are things that humankind has grappled with for centuries. Not having all the answers is a way of nurturing curiosity and allowing kids to find their own doorways.                                         
  • CREATE ONE RITUAL. Rituals are part of many spiritual traditions. It can be as simple as lighting a candle to create a sacred space or turning off all technology for a sabbath space for your family. Think about what is meaningful to you, what you want to share (not force on your kids, but share). Can you create a ritual together or invite your kids to join you in one you have created for yourself (without attachment to them loving it)?
Easeful Motherhood with Mia

Easeful Motherhood with Mia

August 30, 2021

“Easeful Motherhood is a practice of providing  peace, so that our ‘children can become themselves.’” – by Mia, based on Sil’s definition of mothering

Motherhood wasn’t meant to be a juggling act, yet many of us moms have had “too many balls in the air” since the day our kid was born —  and then came the pandemic.

The pandemic made a few things about mothering better, and a few things way harder. 

Whether or not you experienced it as a good break or the hardest stretch of mothering yet, it changed us.

This fall is different from any other fall. 

Our kids are different people after living through the past 18 months.

We are different, and maybe a bit weary.

And with all the “different,” there is a huge  opportunity to show up and support our kids, and ourselves, in a new way.

This fall, as our kids head back to school and we navigate work and home, I would love to invite you into a new way to show up in your role as mom.

This episode is a letter from me to you, mama — really from Sil and I to you.

The short story is that you are invited to lean into a more easeful way for 6-weeks this fall with me and the AMAZING Sil Reynolds — who I literally think is the wisest mother mentor around.

If you feel like you are always juggling…

If you are feeling depleted or frustrated in your role as mama…

If you are not sure if you are doing the mothering thing any differently than your mom, and you want to…

If you have a kid who is REALLY struggling or going through a big life change…

If you just want motherhood to be more easeful and a whole lot less stressful…

If even ONE of these things is true, then you’ll want to read more or

listen in above ....

Learn more and join us for Easeful Motherhood »

The AMAZING Teen Years with Eliza Reynolds

The AMAZING Teen Years with Eliza Reynolds

August 25, 2021

“We actually need grounded adults who have our back, no matter what.” 
–Eliza Reynolds

On this episode of the PlanSimple Podcast, I’m really excited to talk with Eliza Reynolds, who co-wrote Mothering and Daughtering: Keeping Your Bond Strong Through the Teen Years with her mom Sil, who has also been on the podcast. Eliza has been coaching preteen and teen girls for 15 years and offers an amazing perspective to moms. 

Let’s start by talking about the preteen/teen period. So many of us are taught to dread it, to expect it to be awful, but Eliza flips that script, calling it the brilliant, fun, ferocious, intense pre-teen, and teenage years. And she thinks parents and kids need and deserve true, nonjudgmental support.

We dig into peer-culture and toxic mean girls. You’ve probably learned that kids pull away from parents now, that they want to interact more with their peers, but there is a lot of toxic peer culture. Preteens and teens need you to hang in there with them — and they need to be part of communities with healthy peer culture. 

We talk about: 

  • Intentionally building community based on shared values and finding mentors for yourself as a parent
  • Helping kids build relationships with other adults and getting involved with intergenerational mentorship
  • Dealing with things that come up from your own preteen/teen years
  • Why resistance does not mean rejection 
  • Holding limits and boundaries and teaching kids how to take care of themselves
  • Letting go of trying to be a perfect parent and being a real one

BIO

Eliza Reynolds is the professional daughter with the inside scoop and a champion for preteen and teenage girls living full lives. An expert on mother-daughter relationships, she’s been coaching preteen and teen girls to connect with their mothers, and with themselves, since she was a teen herself.

Together with her own mother, Sil, Eliza is the co-author of Mothering and Daughtering: Keeping Your Bond Strong Through the Teen Years, (she wrote the sassy side) and the co-host of We Thrive TV. The mother-daughter duo have taught sold-out workshops nation-wide for thousands of mothers and their preteen and teen daughters for the past 10 years.

On her own, Eliza has her undergraduate degree from Brown University, was trained as a sex educator for Planned Parenthood, and was a consultant for Eve Ensler, (“Vagina Monologues,”) on her book for teenage girls: I Am an Emotional Creature

LINKS FOR BADASS GIRLS ACADEMY

OTHER LINKS FROM PODCAST

Doable Changes from this episode:

  • GET CLEAR ON YOUR VALUES. Getting clear on your values matters for a couple of reasons. One, you’ll share your values with your kids based on what you say and do. But also, if you are looking to intentionally create community, you’re going to look for people who share those. So start by listing your values, what they mean, and how those show up in your life. You might start with some of the ideas here: https://plansimple.com/family-brand/

  • SEEK MENTORS FOR YOUR PRETEENS & TEENS. Helping your kids connect with adults of different ages in your community is one way to do that. Think about who they already have connections with or people they might like to know. Make space to nurture those bridges. Or choose Badass Girls Academy and the mentors there. (See links above.)

  • GET MORE REAL. What would change in your life if you were more real? Eliza asks this question of the preteens and teens she works with, but it works for parents too. Get quiet and ask yourself this question. Or get together with a group of moms and all answer it. Our kids don’t need perfect parents, they need real ones. What would change if you were more real?
Today Matters with Mia

Today Matters with Mia

August 16, 2021

TK.
—Mia Moran

This is one of three episodes of the PlanSimple Podcast about rethinking time. I’m continuing to explore my own ideas about time and sharing exercises that resonate with me and my FLOW 365 group about different aspects of time. 

You can catch up on the first episode about planning and the freedom it gives us (and the dreaming exercise I gave). 

You can catch up the second episode about realization time lives within us and a way to get grounded in time right now. 

In this, the third episode about time, we focus in on today. We’ve identified our big 5–10 year dream. We’ve looked at the remaining five months of the year. And now we’re zooming in even more. 

I talk about: 

  • How looking closely had time helps us loosen our grip on time and finding middle ground between being a prisoner to our schedule and detaching from time
  • Getting what we really want folded into our day
  • The why behind the Today sheet, how recycling your Today sheets as a way of letting go of the day, and how to simplify this process even more
  • Starting with “What is going to move me forward today?” 
  • Being conscious and aware of how you spend your time
  • Keep coming back to Today if you get off track. 

(Today Sheet Image)

Doable Change from this episode:

  • FOCUS ON TODAY. For this exercise you need the Today sheet, linked above. This sheet, from the FLOW planner is a daily practice of acknowledging both the creative lists piece of planning and how that exists in time. 
    • The left side of the sheet is full of questions and lists. The right side is grounded in time from 6 AM to 11 PM
    • Set your intention.
    • List three things that will move you toward that intention. (This is about impact not about how much time it fills up.)
    • Block out your time.
    • Time track and take notes about what really happened at the end of the day.
    • Note gratitude. 
  • USE A POST IT. A Post-it is a great way to simplify your Today process. Write what you are grateful for, write 3 things you are committed to doing, and what’s for dinner (because food nourishes us to accomplish the things that matter—and writing it down takes way a lot of the overthinking). 
  • SHARE. What’s on your Today sheet? Share your intention or your three things or your gratitude here or if you’re ready to share, but not with everyone, you can message me there

FLOW 365 is a time to lean into your best life, to dream, to plan, to do and find flow. And you may make big shifts in thinking—like some of the ideas I’ve been sharing about time—we get really practical. Our plans take into account what’s happen in our lives, what we want, and the steps we need to take. 

Here’s what a week in FLOW looks like:

Monday calls—Everyone gets a chance to share your three big rocks—the most important things, the things that are moving you toward your 5–10 year vision. They may not be the most time consuming things, but they are the things you need to be intentional about. 

Fridays we have a big group planning call. I lead with a reflection about time or what’s been coming up over the week. We get grounded in gratitude. And we plan our week. 

In addition there are learning opportunities, like how to plan a morning or evening routine the move you toward your best life, or digging deeper into meal planning. Sometimes we dive into different categories of goals—food goals, lifestyle goals, work goals, spiritual goals. We choose a 21-day focus to change a habit. We also have get it done sessions where you show up and do the work you need to do. 

For all of this, you choose what to show up for, you choose what you need to live your best life. 

And every 90 days we have a retreat where we get grounded in our goals. The next retreat is the last week in August. Sign up now, so you can be part of this community and the life-changing practice

This is the last time I anticipate running a 90-day session of FLOW and the last time I run it at this price. Are you ready to get in FLOW, ready to move your dream forward, ready for deep support and community?

Get Grounded in Time with Mia

Get Grounded in Time with Mia

August 16, 2021

“We do not live within time, time lives within us.”
— Rob Bell

This is two of three episodes of the PlanSimple Podcast about rethinking time. I’m doing my own deep exploration of time and working through it in FLOW365 and sharing my thoughts here even as they evolved. 

You can catch up on the first episode about planning and the freedom it gives us (and the dreaming exercise I gave) here.  

In this, the second episode about time, we focus on the idea that we do not live within time, time lives within us. We continue to loosen the grip time has on us—in our whole lives or in some aspect of our life. And we have to remember that we can’t bring the past or future into the present except by the stories we tell ourselves. 

I lead with the exercise (see below) and talk about: 

  • How time feels different right now and a way to start grounding in time (without getting stuck in it)
  • Rituals and systems that may need to be adjusted as we move into a new season
  • Noticing the urge to do everything all at once right now, look at where things should actually happen based on the energy of each month
  • Moving back and forth between a creative list and time
  • How mapping our dreams helps us avoid panicking about time — instead of OMG there are only five months left in 2015, we can relax into those five months
  • Getting out of a scarcity mindset about time

LINKS

  • https://robbell.podbean.com/e/time-in-us/

Exercise

  • LANDING IN TIME. For this exercise you need a month at a glance calendar for the rest of the months of 2021 (August–December) and some colored pens. You can use a paper one if you have one or print one from online. Lay out the months in front of you on the floor or a table. Ask what does August mean to me? What does September mean? Do this for all the months. 
  • Open up your planner or digital calendar, scan through your emails… What do you have coming up? Kids going back to school, holidays, business launches … just start to mentally gather it.
  • Start marking things up — here’s where we are on vacation, here’s where kids start school, here’s the transition into new routines, here’s a new planner going out into the world …                                                                        Notice the energy around each month and what naturally works into the blocks of time.
  • SHARE YOUR AHAS. What did you learn about time? Where do you feel like you’ve landed?  Share here or if you’re ready to share, but not with everyone, you can message me there or send an email.
  • GET READY FOR STEP 3. This is the second episode of three about time. Take time to dream, do this exercise about landing in time and then come back to find out what’s next.

FLOW365 is a time to lean into your life, to dream, to plan, to do and find flow. We work with the different cycles and seasons of our lives and move with intention toward big dreams. It’s amazing work to do in a community of committed women. 

This is the last time I anticipate running a 90-day session of FLOW and the last time I run it at this price. Are you ready to get in FLOW, ready to move your dream forward, ready for deep support and community?

Rethinking Time with Mia

Rethinking Time with Mia

August 13, 2021

“Planning is a gift from our past self to our future self so that we can receive the gift in the now — and BE in the now.”

– Mia

I have been thinking a lot about time the past few months — in an effort to understand why time felt different during the at-home phase of the pandemic and how we can keep the good parts going — with my journal, in the early mornings, at the beach, and between client calls. 

I pressed the record button on three episodes last week. This is not “perfectly” flushed out content, BUT it is very relevant as we head out of the rhythm of the last 18 months and into the rhythm of fall (and the different kind of uncertainty it brings). Each episode has some ideas —they are a weaving of the FLOW planning process as you may have come to know it mixed with some new ideas that are an updated way for me to talk about time while also older than you and I — and each episode has a planning exercise to move you forward.

In this first episode, I talk about being in the now. I have found that obsessing about the future and wallowing in the past can muddy the “now moment.” 

My antidote to this is a plan. 

Planning creates a container for us to land in our dreams and helps us loosen our grasp on time. So in a way planning gives us freedom. — even though it may seem like the opposite. 

When we try to hold time too tight, we can’t move forward... and this stuckness leads to the feeling of overwhelm.

Right now many of us are holding on to time very tightly — well because we may feel like we just lost a year and then some.

Right now many women are experiencing more overwhelm than ever.

Side note. There are reasons to process the past and dream of the future, in fact that’s what this episode is about, we just don’t want to get stuck there in an effort to avoid the present.

Listen in to hear all the nuggets and then do the exercise below (also explained on the episode).

EXERCISE

CREATE A VISION. Make time and space to dream and to write down your dream. Don’t get locked into how things are supposed to be, the pandemic, the kids' ages, your current living arrangement, or the fact you need more money. Just ask yourself, “How do I want my life to feel? What does that look like with work, home, vacations, health, energy, relationships?

Keep it simple and find small chunks of time to do this exercise. Schedule three 15 minute dream sessions. I love doing this right before bed or first thing in the morning.

Create the physical space to dream. Light a candle to create an intentional space, play music that brings you joy, and find a notebook or paper that feels special. Or clean off your bedside table and put a notebook, favorite pen, and some special objects by your bed. Ask the question “What am I trying to create in my life?” before you go to bed. 

If you get stuck… Focus on a time 5–10 years from now, enough you get out of whatever is making you feel stuck right now. Free yourself of all limiting beliefs by casting a dream that has possibility because it is in  10 years.

SHARE YOUR VISION. Tell us what your vision is! Share here or if you’re ready to share, but not with everyone, you can DM me there too or just send an email!

GET READY FOR STEP 2. This is the first episode of three about time. First make time to dream, then come back to find out what’s next.

You are invited into FLOW365 if bringing this dream into reality is something you would love some structure and support with.

FLOW365 is all about bringing our dreams to reality, through planning, leaning into one thing, and creating flow between different areas of our life. During our FLOW365 Retreat at the end of August, we’ll get really clear on our 90-day goals for the next season, whether you think of that as fall or this period of your life, where you are in your business, your marriage, with your kids or with your parents … We’ll work through the season and move into in with intention. 

This is the last time I anticipate running a 90-day session of FLOW and the last time I run it at this price. Are you ready to get in FLOW, ready to move your dream forward, ready for deep support and community? 

Enrollment is open August 12 – August 20. The first 5 to sign up, and pay in full, get a BONUS half day VIP session to build out a specific plan — business launch, healthy meals, parenting, you name it, a plan can respond to it!

LINKS

Planning with Purpose – Your 5–10 Year Plan

FLOW365

Becoming Anti-racist with Brandyn Campbell

Becoming Anti-racist with Brandyn Campbell

August 8, 2021

I love the consent of anti-racism because it's not just choices, but it's action.
–Brandyn Campbell

On this episode of the PlanSimple Podcast, I’m really excited to talk with Brandyn Campbell, a consultant who helps companies build and articulate their commitment to racial justice. That means building inclusive environments and fleshing out their values and how those can align with being anti-racist. 

This is not an easy conversation. I’ve realized over the past year ways that I am not anti-racist, ways I am not inclusive. There is a part of me that worries I could make a mistake, say the wrong thing to Brandyn in this conversation, or others. I know I am not alone in this fear, but it’s really important to have these conversations as part of change. 

We talk about putting this into practice in our businesses. Brandyn says it can be easier for small business or solopreneurs because there are fewer layers of politics to navigate. It starts with identifying core values. 

We talk about: 

  • How to handle making mistakes and how to use them to move forward
  • Ways to identify core values or brand values, decisions to make based on your values and how that can be hard in the short term, and the power of being values aligned and how it sets you apart from your competition
  • Aspirational values and steps we take that move us further into alignment with our values (we talk specifically about being inclusive as a value) 
  • Little steps you can take, like buying books from a Black-owned independent bookstore instead of Amazon
  • Remembering that actions, like pointing out to an event organizer that their panel should be more diverse, don’t have to be a big controversy
  • Talking with our kids about racism and also setting and living values as a family

BIO

Brandyn Campbell combines her passions for communications and diversity to help businesses build and articulate their commitment to racial justice. The founder of Brandyn Campbell Communications, she draws on 15 years of experience providing training and strategy on multiculturalism and cultural competence. Brandyn has worked with clients around the world to provide actionable solutions to infuse diversity, equity, and inclusion throughout their communications and cultures. Brandyn lives in suburban Philadelphia and loves reading, laughing, music, hiking, and going on adventures with her two children.

LINKS

Doable Changes from this episode:

  • PRACTICE MAKING MISTAKES. Making mistakes is part of learning and change. Practice not getting defensive when you get called out or called in. Practice saying, “I didn’t know that. Thank you for telling me.”

  • IDENTIFY CORE VALUES. Journal about your core values. Think about this as an internal exercise, not something you will put on your website. Just define for yourself what you believe and why. You can choose to make these public, but doing it as a private exercise takes away the pressure to find the right words and lets you focus on the belief.
  • PICK ONE SMALL WAY TO LIVE YOUR VALUES. We discussed some of the ways we can live our values. It can be as simple as buying the books that we would buy anyway from a Black-owned independent bookseller instead of Amazon. Or sending a message to an event organizer pointing out a lack of diversity in their panel or making an effort to bring different perspectives to our own panels or podcasts. Pick one way and lean into that for the next month.
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