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Hear your Intuition with Heather Maguire

Hear your Intuition with Heather Maguire

October 18, 2019

On this episode of the Plan Simple Meals Podcast, I’m really excited to talk with Heather Maguire, about intuition. Heather is an intuitive, a medium, and the mom of two teenagers. 

Intuition is knowing things without thinking it out or without a known reason. Our intuition is so important but so often I hear people saying it isn’t really their thing. Heather says, “A lot of people who feel like they don’t have an intuition or they don't hear it or connect with it are people who have an idea of what it's supposed to look or sound or feel like. Part of developing your intuition or beginning to hear your intuition better is understanding what your intuition looks and sounds and feels like.” 

So sometimes we don’t hear our intuition because we haven’t learned to understand our own intuition. And many of us aren’t really in tune with our bodies, which makes it harder to connect with our intuition.  

We talk about: 

  • Getting more comfortable in our bodies by regularly practicing feeling different emotions
  • Understanding the difference between fear and intuition
  • How things keep coming back to us if we don’t listen to our intuition
  • How doing a little less can actually help us move forward
  • What happens when you trust and give up the need to do everything ourselves
  • Using planning in a healthy way to make space for what’s important

BIO

Heather Maguire is intuitive and medium who offers private sessions, group events and workshops. Her readings provide clarity and uncover what's below the surface but impacting your daily life and your ability to accomplish your goals. Her intuitive sessions are like a comforting, therapeutic conversation that leaves you feeling safe, grounded and loved. Having been intuitive her whole life, Heather has always been fascinated by the connections between people and the conversation beneath the conversation. She enjoys helping people uncover their own intuitive abilities and believes that at the end of the day, what matters most is honoring the truth of who you are. She likes to say, "You're not broken. You're not an accident. Who you are is who you are meant to be. You have permission to love your whole self!"

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Doable Changes from this episode:

  • TRUE/NOT TRUE EXERCISE. Stand up, take a few deep breaths and clear your energy and then just start playing around. Think of things that are true and then think of things that are not true. See how your body reacts to known truths and known untruths. This will help you understand how your body reacts when you aren’t sure about things.

  • JOURNALING TO GET OUT OF PANIC. We use journaling for a lot of reasons. Try using it to get out of panic. Start your day by writing down all the thoughts flooding into your head. Read it through to see what you are feeding yourself. Then help the pendulum spin by writing some new thoughts. 

  • FEEL YOUR FEELINGS. One of the big blocks to our intuition is not being in our bodies. One way to start to change this is to practice feeling our feelings. Take 10 seconds each day to fully feel your feelings (you can practice with a chosen feeling or let yourself fully feel something that comes up for you). Feel it and then move on. 
Life After 40 with Natalie Matushenko

Life After 40 with Natalie Matushenko

October 8, 2019

As long as you take care of your health and you really try to live consciously, life just gets better and better. – Natalie Matushenko

On this episode of the Plan Simple Meals Podcast, I’m so excited to have Natalie Matushenko back on the show. Natalie is a leadership coach, teacher, adventurer, and a really good friend. She’s dedicated to women living passionately, and so she’s hosting a summit on how to lead an extraordinary life when you’re over 40. I’m part of the summit and really excited today to talk to her about what she’s learned as she gets ready for it!

Natalie talks about her own journey of hormone-related issues, health scares, relationships falling apart, things that seemed OK for years suddenly not being OK … She said, “I’ve been doing personal growth for 20 years and it still felt like my entire life was turning upside down.” So she went looking for answers and talked to a lot of amazing women … and put together a summit for us. 

When we talk about this time of life, being over 40, going through perimenopause, a lot of us think about hormonal fluctuations. This is real! But Natalie also links these physical changes with the soul work of asking what you need to change or let go of and really stepping into our own power. 

We talk about: 

  • Shame around getting older and why we don’t talk about what’s happening to us
  • Ways to balance hormones in addition to hormone therapy, like diet, meditation, and exercise
  • Sex drive increasing and how to take advantage of that (plus orgasms are good for you!)
  • How kids leaving home is a transition, but also an amazing time for you
  • Simple practices for raising our happiness set point, like practicing gratitude, acceptance of what is, and noticing the good things in your life and paying attention to them for 10 seconds.
  • Abundance, money archetypes, and how little changes in your surroundings can bring huge changes in your life

BIO

Natalie Matushenko helps soulful, ambitious and multi-passionate women uncover their purpose and start passion-driven businesses. She’s been on her own journey to explore the changes in life after 40 and brings together an amazing array of women experts in areas ranging from hormones to money to sex to beyond in the Women Living Passionately Summit. She’s the also mama to three girls.

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Doable Changes from this episode:

  • LEARN MORE. One of the first steps to making a change is knowing your options and getting information. Sign up for the Women Living Passionately Summit. There is so much good information for women over 40. Sign up, then set aside time to watch the interviews.

  • TAKE MINI STEPS TO HAPPINESS. Try simple, quick, throughout the day practices: express gratitude, accept what is, notice and take time (10 seconds will do it) to pay attention to the good things in your life. Identify three-five times during the day you will do this or set a reminder on your phone. Take those 10 seconds … then see if you find yourself doing more on your own.

  • TALK ABOUT IT. Talking about what is happening in our lives and our bodies helps us learn more and understand that it’s not just us. Topics of health and sex and our bodies have been silenced for a long time. Putting this stuff on the podcast and in the summit is important, but you can have important conversations too.

End Strong

End Strong

October 4, 2019

I recently ran a live event for a small group of women where we sat around my kitchen table and planned Q4 — October, November, and December.

Each woman came to the table wanting to get really clear on how to finish this year in business strong.

As we went through the exercises, however, the stories we heard were about household goals, relationships that needed attention, and food habits that wanted to be cleaned up. 

And sitting there, with this group of AMAZING women entrepreneurs, I was reminded of why I do what I do, and that no matter how big our goals are we need our food, our home, our relationships, and ourselves to feel nourished. 

This week I have been doing a fascinating exercise myself around simplifying. I bought Courtney Carver’s course, Soulful Simplicity. As Courtney was teaching to clean out spaces, I also was prompted to clean out all my closets and the basement from my own coach. 

Here’s the interesting part… every time I set my timer, leave my computer and declutter, amazing things happen in other areas of my life.

The only reason I make the time to do the work in a course or from a coach is because I make a plan. My plan gives me the structure to show up to the life I want to create — even though I may think I have better things to do than clean out a closet in the moment.

On this week’s podcast, I talk you through the process that I shared with the women at the kitchen table.

I also made you some worksheets so you have a place to answer the questions for yourself.

You can download the planning sheets here »

In case you just want the prompts for your own journal, these are the questions we answered.

I recommend setting a timer for 15 minutes for each prompt and trying to focus on the task at hand for the full 15 minutes. If 15 minutes comes and you feel incomplete, make a choice as to whether you want to set the timer once again. Know that you can feel complete with the 15 minutes.

PLANNING PROMPTS

  1. What does your life look like 5 years from now? If you have young children I would imagine 10 years from now. Think about what a day looks like. You can reflect on what just happened and what you are looking forward to on other days, but get yourself through a whole day.
  2. Do a masterlist, aka brain dump. This is EVERYTHING in your mind in no order and unfiltered. I need to brush my teeth. I need to buy more apples. I want to find a great skirt. I want to write a book. I need to call and make that doctor appointment. I need to organize Christmas break. I want to help my kid with that friendship. I want to renovate our third floor… you get my drift.
  3. Decide how you want to feel this season. This season is the next 3 months — the busy fall through the holiday season. Why do you want to feel this way? What does that look like? Words are limited and loaded, so really describe this feeling (or set of feelings) for yourself.
  4. With all of this intel in mind, decide the 4 things you are going to work on in the next 90 days. I want you to choose one thing in each FLOW category — Food and wellness, Lifestyle and family, Om (aka spirituality and self-care), and Work. 
  5. Make a one sheet. With your four goals decided. Make a one-sheet with the list of activities you need to tackle and habits you need to cultivate to move towards this vision in the next 90 days.

You’ve got this!

Work can be Self Care with Claire Pelletreau

Work can be Self Care with Claire Pelletreau

September 19, 2019

I ask people how much money they make, how they do it, how much money they take home and so naturally people come into my show and they tell me “I’m nervous.” – Claire Pelletreau

On this episode of the Plan Simple Meals Podcast, I’m so excited to talk with entrepreneur Claire Pelletreau, who teaches online business owners how to use Facebook and Instagram effectively for their businesses and runs the Get Paid podcast. She’s also mom to a 3 ½-year-old. 

Claire isn’t shy about talking to people about money. So we dive right in about money—making it, spending it, budgeting it, and how people are nervous about talking about it. Along with that, we talk about childcare, stay at home moms and working moms, breastfeeding, and the guilt and judgment involved. 

We talk about: 

  • Choosing childcare that works for you and the outer or inner judgment about childcare
  • Making friends and working as forms of self-care
  • The pressure put on moms to breastfeed
  • Making decisions for your business that move you toward bigger goals and the ones that work for the immediate situation
  • Discomfort about talking about money and learning to deal money
  • Secondary infertility, depression, diet changes and how budgeting changed the mindset around IVF

BIO

Claire Pelletreau is an entrepreneur who teaches people how to run Facebook and Instagram ads for their businesses. She’s the founder of the Get Paid Podcast. She lives in Philadelphia with her three and a half-year-old daughter and her Argentine husband. 

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Doable Changes from this episode:

  • OWN YOUR SELF-CARE. If you love your work and talking about work, own that. Let that be your self-care. If you feel like something else is fun or gives you joy, own that. Sometimes the definition of self-care is too narrow and we judge people for not taking care of themselves. We all have different kinds of self-care. Know what yours is.

  • FIND YOUR PEOPLE. People who “get it” are so important. We get to talk to them about things we love or even do things we love with them. They help and support us in what we do. Think about who in your life supports you in the different parts of your life. Who supports you in your work? In your lifestyle? As a parent? In your healthy living? Often we have different people we turn to in different parts of our lives. Look for—and connect with—your people. 

  • DECIDE WHERE YOUR MONEY IS GOING. Whether you use YNAB or work on budgeting on your own, try this. Know how much money is coming in. If you are an entrepreneur and it isn’t regular, start tracking so that you can see how much comes in and when and maybe notice trends. Then decide ahead of time where your money is going to go. 
Compassionate Eating with Nina Manolson

Compassionate Eating with Nina Manolson

September 5, 2019

To go from that place of “I know” to “I actually treat my body in the way that she deserves, in the way that she really needs to be taken care of,” there’s a huge gap in there for most of us.
– Nina Manolson

On this episode of the Plan Simple Meals Podcast, I’m delighted to have Nina Manolson back. She’s been on the podcast twice before, and I always love talking with her. She’s a holistic health coach and health and wellness coach, and I love her approach to food and body.

We start off talking about compassionate eating and how just saying the word compassion can help you soften. But we often don’t extend compassion to ourselves, and then we add a push dynamic to our relationship with our food and our body, which leads to tightness, restriction, and striving. Compassionate eating isn’t about your eating plan … it’s about how you treat yourself with whatever you are eating. 

A lot of us know what we need to do, but we get caught up in managing food and body, but the management model isn’t very successful. And what if you don’t know what you should be eating? It comes back to compassion and listening to yourself and what you need. 

We talk about: 

  • Living “next door to your body” and how living in your body helps you learn what you need
  • Getting support to learn to interpret what our body is trying so hard to tell us
  • Recognizing that some experiences don’t serve us—even if they might seem healthy on the surface (Nina shares her conclusions about a rock climbing trip that wasn’t serving her)
  • Being body current—responding to the body you have now, not the one you want to have next summer or the one you had back before kids or 30 years ago
  • Hormonal changes, how our body is always changing
  • Developing a compassionate relationship with yourself and quieting your “mean mirror” voice

BIO

Nina Manolson is a certified holistic health coach, a board-certified health & wellness coach, a certified Psychology of Eating Coach and Teacher, and she has a masters in counseling psychology. She is passionate about helping women end their food and body struggles and begin healthy, vibrant living that becomes a habit and easily fits into their busy lives.

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Doable Changes from this episode:

  • LISTEN TO YOUR “MEAN MIRROR” VOICE. To start being more compassionate with yourself, start simply by listening to the conversation that is currently going on with you and your body. Notice that conversation and put a label on it: “Oh, that’s my inner critic” or “That’s my mean mirror voice.” We need to hear that voice so that we can start to cultivate a voice of compassion or kindness toward ourselves. 
  • CALL YOUR BODY BY A LOVING NAME. To get into a relationship with your body, stop referring to your body as It. Start talking to yourself kindly, using the word darling or lovey or some other name you’d use with someone you love.
  • ASK: WOULD I SAY THAT TO SOMEBODY ELSE. When you find yourself talking critically to yourself, ask, “Would I say that to my daughter?” or “Would I say that to a friend?” or “What would I do if I heard somebody else say that to my daughter or a friend?” Use those cues to help you find a kinder way to talk to yourself.

 

Divine Self-Care with Elena Lipson

Divine Self-Care with Elena Lipson

August 29, 2019

We are so distracted by what we think we should be doing, what we think we should be accomplishing, what we think we should be creating. We’re just so off-center from what’s most important.  – Elena Lipson

On this episode of the Plan Simple Meals Podcast, I’m really excited to talk about taking care of yourself with Elena Lipson, a coach, speaker, and retreat leader who helps women stop putting themselves second to everyone and everything in their lives. 

We talk about the difference between work-life balance and work-family balance. The second so often takes you out of the picture completely. So many women say, “I just don’t have time to take care of myself.” It’s not that we don’t know what to do, it’s that we have a hard time prioritizing — and recognizing that balance isn’t stable, it moves back and forth like a pendulum. 

Another way to think about balance is not to think about everything being equal, but to think about how things feel. Are they fulfilling? Are you giving attention to the things you want to give attention to? Elena says, “You’re actually course correcting all the time. That is the best description of entrepreneurship and motherhood and womanhood and life. You’re constantly course-correcting based on what is feeling really fulfilling right. What do I need to put my attention to.” 

We talk about: 

  • Putting your top priority on the calendar first
  • Delegating things that get in the way of your top priority
  • The idea of daily alignment, which may mean putting attention to different places or including different things in your life day by day, and also checking in with yourself daily to see if what you are doing feels right
  • Having a criteria to help you make decisions and say no—and modeling how you use family criteria in decision making 
  • Elena’s HOME acronym (Health crisis, Overwhelmed, Motherhood, Entrepreneurship) and how your choices lead to repercussions through all aspects of your life, including your body
  • What self-care really is
  • The importance of moving your body first thing in the day

BIO

Elena Lipson is a Divine Self-Care Mentor, speaker, transformational coach and retreat leader. She’s also the creator of The Divine Self-Care Circle, a year-long journey for women who are ready to say YES to igniting their divine feminine and dropping the hustle in exchange for creating a life they love with ease and grace. Elena works with incredible women all over the world to help them become the #1 asset in their life, business and the bedroom. Elena helps women reconnect to their intuition and re-claim their voice.

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Doable Changes from this episode:

  • MOVE YOUR BODY FIRST. Elena encourages people to move their body first thing every morning. We know that movement has health benefits, but moving your body also gets you out of your head (and our of the habit of scrolling through your messages and social media). Take a walk. Do some yoga. Dance. See what happens when you start your day with movement.
  • CALENDAR YOUR TOP PRIORITY FIRST. Do you put all your work dates and times on your calendar first? What would happen if you started with your priorities—the things you really wanted to make time for? Whether it is being there for your kid’s events, family dinner, or a project that lights you up every day, put it on your calendar first. Then fit in other things around it. Do this for the next season or the next month and see how it it feels. 
  • SET DECISION CRITERIA. Do you say yes to things you really don’t want to do? Do you have trouble saying no? You aren’t alone. Set some decision making criteria to help you practice making decisions that fit your priority. If you make family dinner a priority, you may need to say no to certain activities or meetings. Get clear on your priorities for this season. Then when an event or offer comes up, assess it to see if it works with your priorities before you answer. If you find you have a hard time saying no, learn to say, let me get back to you. Think it through and then give the answer you truly want to give

The Three Week Sprint with Stacey Ackerman

The Three Week Sprint with Stacey Ackerman

August 22, 2019

Agile is all about flexibility, reevaluation and inspecting and adapting what we’re doing. That’s the agile mindset and I bring that philosophy into my family.  – Stacey Ackerman

On this episode of the Plan Simple Meals Podcast, I’m really excited to talk with Stacey Ackerman, the founder of Agilify Training, about Scrum. Not sure what that is? Don’t worry! Neither did I until very recently … and then I couldn’t wait to learn more. 

Scrum is a management framework based on collaboration and teamwork, focus and getting things done in small iterative ways. The goal is to get things out quickly, get feedback and make a change. Stacey is a scrum coach in the corporate world but has also used the framework in her home life. One of the key things is to get all the players involved. That means getting your kids involved in the process if you are using Scrum at home instead of just dictating their jobs. 

Stacey talks about how the process has changed as they use it more and more. She talks about getting her kids involved in the planning and using it as a way to increase responsibility and accountability for chores before fun. 

We talk about: 

  • Trello as a tool to organize home and work tasks
  • Friday planning sessions and Monday check ins with an accountability partner
  • The idea of timeboxing—giving yourself a certain amount of time to focus and get something done
  • Having fewer tasks going at once for greater productivity
  • Sprint reviews and retrospectives—meetings or ceremonies at the end of a sprint
  • Creating a backlog—all the things that have to happen—and prioritizing

BIO

Stacey Ackerman is the founder of Agilify Training. She’s a coach and trainer with a background in marketing. She became passionate about agile as a better way to work in 2012 when she experimented with it for an ad agency client. Since then she has been a Scrum Master, agile coach and has helped with numerous agile transformations with teams across the globe. She’s also a speaker and mom to three kids. 

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Doable Changes from this episode:

  • CREATE A HOME BACKLOG. Have a family meeting and create a backlog (a list of all the things that need to happen) for either the things it takes to run your household or for a specific project (a move, a vacation, etc.). Pull out the sticky notes and get everyone’s ideas. You can then prioritize and assign tasks to different people.

  • TIMEBOX. Take a look at your list of things to do. Choose one important task for this week. Mark off on your calendar when you will do it, including how long you have to work on it. When the time comes, turn off all distractions. Focus on the task at hand and get it done.

  • DO A SPRINT RETROSPECTIVE. When a sprint is done, stop and look at how it worked out. Use the information from this retrospective to make adjustments going forward. For example, look at the chores assigned to your kids. Were they too difficult? Did they have too much to do? Do they need more guidance or different tools to accomplish those chores going forward? Make adjustments as needed.

Intuitive Tools with Sara Walka

Intuitive Tools with Sara Walka

August 14, 2019

Learning to pay attention to the lunar cycles helps us pay attention to ourselves, which helps us hear intuitively. – Sara Walka

On this episode of the Plan Simple Meals Podcast, I’m really excited to talk with Sara Walka, the head magic maker and founder of The Sisters Enchanted, about moon cycles, intuition, cards, and other tools. 

Intrigued by tarot since she was 15, Sara has been following an intuitive path for the past 20 years. Leaning into her intuition led her to quit her job as a candy sales rep, go to graduate school, become an educational consultant, and then eventually to start The Sisters Enchanted. We talk about letting intuition guide us.

And then we talk about lunar cycles and ebb and flow. So often we fight against a cycle, feeling like we need to keep doing things all the time. Sara talks about recognizing the changes in the sky and in our own energy and how we can learn to pause and not feel bad about doing that. I love that she says this from her knowledge of the lunar cycles and ackowledges that as a mom and a business owner, it can be challenging to let ourselves do that. But it starts with awareness.

We talk about: 

  • Finding and using the energy periods within a cycle – and then resting (the full moon or the new moon tend to be intense periods for different people)
  • How those pauses help us to hear what our bodies and intuition are telling us
  • How to use lunar cycles whether or not your own cycle lines up and the benefits of tracking both cycles and your energy
  • Looking at other cycles, like the 24-hour day learning what part of the day feels more energetic and which part feels slower and then combining this knowing with what you know about the 28-day lunar cycle
  • Oracle cards and pendulums as tools to help us hear our intuition
  • How emotional attachment related to having kids can get in the way of our intuition

BIO

Sara WalkaLunar is the head magic maker and founder of The Sisters Enchanted. She makes magic mainstream and helps people magnify their magic, stretch their soul, and learn to love their life and themselves. The Sisters Enchanted strives to spread magic, optimism, and spirituality to an increasingly chaotic world through monthly membership programs, free Facebook group, and courses. She’s the mom to a five-year-old daughter and a two-year-old son, and currently can usually be found at home with her kids in Connecticut or cultivating communities on the internet.

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Doable Changes from this episode:

  • TRACK YOUR ENERGY. Start noticing and tracking your energy. Write down how you feel at different times of the day and throughout the 28-day lunar cycle. You can find a lunar calendar online to help you find when the moon is full, new, or at any other stage. You may want to track your energy during your own menstrual cycle too, whether or not it matches up with the lunar cycle. Starting to see patterns may take some time, but try simply getting into the habit of awareness and tracking.

  • WRITE IT DOWN. Writing down the thoughts that seem crazy or like, “Why am I thinking this?” Then circling back later in the day to see what happened, what you noticed, how you felt, or what you realized.

  • PULL AN ORACLE CARD. There are oracle decks for every one. Find one that speaks to you. Then pull a card first thing in the morning. See how it plays out for you throughout the day. Does it help you hear and trust your intuition a little more? 
Make Big Changes Without Feeling Like an Outcast

Make Big Changes Without Feeling Like an Outcast

August 9, 2019

When the going gets tough. We hide. Well, I don’t know about you but I do… When we make changes in our lives it can feel strange to us, our families and our friends. Others may resist our changes because they feel threatened. They wonder if you are judging them. They don’t want to change or even think that they might have to. They are uncomfortable when you don’t do the things you always did before. As humans, we are not programmed to love change, so this is totally normal.

It’s hard to stick to our changes when we are getting disapproval or too many questions or enticements to do what everyone else is doing and just fit in. But you can do it. With your why, a plan, and a little accountability and support you can do it. 

5 Steps to Make the Change You Crave

Here’s what you need to get through the discomfort to stick with the changes you crave. 

1. Accept that change is hard and feel OK with change.

Do one doable change at a time. Know your big why. When I made my big change to lose weight, it was really about having energy. I didn’t know how to cook, but I did what was doable. For me, it was making 5 not-even recipes day after day until I got the energy. Then I learned how to cook. Then I was able to integrate healthy eating into our family. But it all happened by committing to what felt doable. What is doable to you is different from what is doable for other people. 

2. Keep it super simple. 

Big change can feel overwhelming, that why here at Plan Simple, we focus on One Doable change at a time. I like to look at Doable Changes as experiments. Lean into one change at a time and see how it feels. We include ideas for doable changes at the end of every podcast or get a 101 Doable Changes for different areas of your life. (Just remember to focus on one at a time.)

3. Recall what works regularly. 

Write down what you are grateful for. Write down the “magic moments”—those times when what we need comes to us when we make choices and take actions to move toward our goals. It helps us block out what other people think and focus on what is working. It also helps us quiet our own mind from telling us we are crazy for doing this. Write down the shifts. Write down the ways life is getting better. Learn to notice the magic. Write it down. Look back at that when it feels hard. Keep going.

4. Don’t lecture, just lead. 

When you start to make amazing changes in your life, people notice. They notice your glow or your energy or how organized your house is or how unflustered you seem all the time. People start to ask questions. We want others to feel amazing too, and sometimes our response comes out as a lecture or judgey way: You need to give up gluten or commit to yoga or stop overscheduling your kids or set regular work hours … 

Instead, be a walking example. Bring a gluten-free treat to a party so that people can love what you love instead of notice what you aren’t doing. Live your calm or your energy or your joy … whatever good comes up for you. 

5. Find accountability. 

Not everybody will be ready for the changes you are making. Having like-minded people to talk to when things get hard and to hold you accountable can make all the difference. You may find these people at your school, in a moms group, or in Facebook groups. Check-in weekly just to tell someone what you are planning to do — from not yelling at the kids to eating more kale to finishing the presentation that you are working on—and then check in to say how it went. 

If you want to look at your life holistically and make big changes, FLOW 365 might be just what you are looking for. We mix big vision goal setting, planning around your cycles, resources to help you keep moving forward with regular support and accountability. Check it out here >> FLOW 365

Doable Changes from this episode:

  • EXPERIMENT WITH ONE THING. Drink enough water daily. Go to bed on time. Eat more veggies. Only work during work hours. Get outside every day. What one change will move you toward your bigger goal? Whether it’s a health goal or a work goal or a lifestyle change or moving toward better self-care, a big change comes from repeated little changes. Choose one doable change to experiment with. Lean into it for a week and see how it feels. Do you want to keep going? Do you need to tweak it? 
  • SCHEDULE SOMETHING. Pick one thing you want this week and schedule it on your calendar. It could be your morning meditation, dinner prep to eat better, the writing time you need to move forward on your book, your favorite yoga class or even downtime. Put it on your calendar and hold that time sacred to what you scheduled it for.
  • NOTICE YOUR MAGIC MOMENTS. Magic moments are those things that crop up once we commit to a change or a goal. Maybe your 5-year-old notices that you didn’t yell today or you find your teen trying to meditate after seeing you doing it the morning after morning. Perhaps you get an email from a coach who’s program exactly fits your needs after telling your friend what you wanted to do. Maybe it’s an aha you had about how to move forward or reaching a milestone. Notice and write these down. Go back to them when you feel unsure about your path. 
How to Overcome 3 Major Blocks to Make Change You Crave

How to Overcome 3 Major Blocks to Make Change You Crave

August 8, 2019

You know what you want. You crave big change, but you can’t seem to get there or even gain momentum toward the life you really want. We’re going to look at three blocks to making a change, and more importantly, what you can do about it. 

Block 1: We fill our calendars.

We see an empty hour and we say yes to a playdate. We see an empty day and we say yes to volunteering all day at our kids' school. We see an empty weekend and say yes to the birthday party, the show, and the neighborhood cookout. 

Work ends at 5, we run to get kids by 6:00 we need dinner on the table by 6:10 for the rest of our evening to work. We don’t make time for the things we say we want to do. We literally schedule ourselves out of our own lives.

Let’s change that. 

  • Build in space. Go through your calendar and schedule space — ramp up and ramp down time, blocks of nothing gets scheduled time, transportation time,  10-year plan time. Get really real about how long things take. 
  • Make time for the important things. If you really want to eat better, schedule time to meal plan and prep. If you want to write a book, put that time on your calendar and hold it sacred. Put it on your calendar so you don’t fill that space with the things that don’t matter. 
  • Commit to one doable change at a time. Big changes happens as small actions we take again and again. You aren’t going to lose 65 lbs in a day. You won’t write your book by the end of this week or have meditation part of your morning routine overnight. Set yourself up—in your calendar—to make one change. Set aside 5 minutes to meditate every morning next week. Set your alarm. Get up. Do it. Plan your meals. Stick to the plan. See what happens when you set yourself up to move toward your goals. Really fit it in your change. Feel curious. Maybe even have some fun.

Block 2: Our calendar system limits us

Do you keep all the parts of your life separate? Kid rosters are stuck on the fridge. Your meal plan is on a chalk board in your kitchen. Appointments and work show up on your phone. But everything is separate and all over the place. 

We’re reacting to what’s coming in and not what’s going on big picture.

Let’s change that.

We need a plan that has the whole picture in it. We need a plan that honors our seasons and cycles. Plan for the next 90-day season. What pieces of your big plan can you work on during those 90 days? 

But when we look at this, we need to look at our lives holistically. That’s why I created the FLOW process. FLOW stands for:

Food

Lifestyle

Om (selfcare and down time)

Work

What do you need to focus on in this season to work toward this life you crave? Maybe you are focused on one category right now, but often categories affect each other. Making a choice has magic in it. One member of FLOW365 was working on a big change at work, but she kept coming up against barriers. She decided to focus on clearing clutter at home for the next 90 days, and as she did so, the work stuff fell into place. 

Trust that you are going to live in this bigger way of living and that what you choose now to move you forward has less pressure.

Block 3: It’s hard to be different.

It is hard to be different. We don’t have a blueprint for parenting, for entrepreneurship, for so many of the things we want in our lives. We get input from the media, from our community, from the Internet … we don’t even hear what we want. 

I hear this a lot around food changes. “I feel good when I don’t have all the sugar” or “I want to go gluten-free” but how do I go the party or have dinner out? 

Let’s change that. 

Put your big why someplace you can see it regularly. Let your why to pull you forward instead of feeling like you are constantly pushing to make a change. 

We’ll talk a lot more about this block in the next post: Make Big Changes Without Feeling Like an Outcast.